Healing Combat Trauma

Quotable Quotes -- The Dalai Lama on Life Purpose and Satisfaction

That Dalai Lama -- he's amazing! If "personal outlook" were a software package, I'd ask for the Dalai Lama upgrade: because I like how he thinks. So compassionate and kind and reasonable, but not afraid of science. A fascinating, compelling combination. 

Some of his great quotes lately:

"We can't be useful to ourselves unless we're useful to others. Whether we like it or not, we're all connected, and it is unthinkable to be happy all by oneself. Anyone concerned only with his own well-being will suffer eventually. Anyone concerned with the well-being of others takes care of himself without even thinking about it. Even if we decide to remain selfish, let us be intelligently selfish -- let us help others." -- The Dalai Lama.

And another:

"Once you shift your focus from yourself to others and extend your concern to others, this will have the immediate effect of opening up your life and helping you to reach out. The practice of cultivating altruism has a beneficial effect not only from a religious point of view but also from a mundane point of view; not only for long-term spiritual development but even in terms of immediate rewards."

And another:

"The world's major religious traditions all give the development of compassion a key role. Because it is both the source and the result of patience, tolerance, forgiveness and all good qualities, its importance is felt to extend from the beginning to the end of spiritual practice. Even without a religious perspective, love and compassion are clearly of fundamental importance to us all."

And another:

"Satisfaction is characterized by inner peace. It arises from generosity, honesty and what I call ethical conduct, a way of behaving that respects others' rights to be happy."

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Bringing this all back around to veterans with combat-based PTSD and their families, think how crucial what he's expressing are. Eighteen veterans a day kill themselves -- a shocking statistic -- and we seem to be at the beginning, not the middle or the end -- of that particular trend. Army and Marine suicides -- they see the bulk of the action, after all, in these wars -- are both up, despite the "best of intentions" on the part of the services to bring down the numbers. Pep talks on prevention and more prescriptions aren't solving the problem, nor are they likely to. Because, as one combat vet with PTSD said, "pep talks are hard to take seriously because that is for the normal life of a normal person, not for a veteran contemplating suicide because of combat trauma." True, that.

It's coming up on two years, shortly, of my first phone conversation with the combat vet, a Vietnam vet, Marine, with 40 years(!) of severe, chronic PTSD, which plagued his life, despite "all the best" of what the VA threw at him (his words, not mine), including an inpatient, residential PTSD program that was cutting-edge at the time. (Would it surprise you to know that most of his classmates in that program, according to him, are now dead, also from suicide?) After our first conversation, which seemed relatively pleasant and positive, he followed up with an email about wanting to drink and put a gun in his mouth to end it all, because he was sure God hated him; after all, he himself did. Sparkly stuff. Lots of unicorns and rainbows and fluffy clouds there...not one bit.

Of course, the end of his story is quite a bit more positive, mostly because it didn't end. He's made the transition from bleak, grim and grisly to mostly inspirational and awesome. And it took a while, a solid footing, a hand reaching across the abyss and pulling him up and out -- a hand which he importantly grabbed (it doesn't work if you don't ;-). It took some specific therapeutic treatments to help remove trauma from the body. We tried a few, intentionally, and they worked; there are others that might as well. And it took a huge motivation on his part to reach out -- however ugly his mess at the time -- to get some help and be real about where he was really at. For years, decades really, he'd been the one other vets' wives called to take the gun out of the mouths of their husbands. Now he finally had some hope to offer others. But it took commitment on his part, believing that the hope was out there, and going after it with all he had. Not always pretty, but effective :-)

(He's the veteran in the "Eyewitness to Combat" series on the site. Here are two items about his turnaround, linked here and here. The second is in his own words.)

Anyway, the upshot of the whole experience is wanting to build a program to bring other combat veterans with PTSD through, and help their families as well, who are often left holding the bag (of misery) but not really getting the help they need either. Combat veterans with PTSD have often lost their life purpose completely, and as we've been talking about lately, purpose is key.

The "eyewitness to combat" veteran, described above -- he and I share a purpose. It's helping others overcome. It's possible. And as the Dalai Lama says, that's being intelligently selfish -- taking care of those 18 vets a day who'll be killing themselves, BEFORE it happens. So it doesn't HAVE to happen. That's the best use that you and I could put our time and energy and compassion to. Please join in helping others so that they don't have to suffer so intensely, when there is a way out.

Editor's Note: A California-based psychology grad student is doing a Ph.D. thesis on Iraq vets with PTSD and life purpose. If you qualify based on the above criteria, he'd like to talk to you, and will pay you $50 for your efforts if you participate. Here's the link to his study. His brother is a combat vet. 

Additionally, you can "follow" the Dalai Lama on Twitter -- @DalaiLama -- and you can follow us on Twitter as well @HealingPTSD.

Quotable Quotes -- Rob Brezsny on What Qualifies as "Information" on a Subject, Even PTSD

Here's a great quote from American free thinker Rob Brezsny. I like it because it goes to the heart of what we're trying to do on this site. It's not the "same 'ol, same 'ol" -- it's an attempt to get people thinking differently about a topic that ruins many people's lives, yet within which there is still to be found a certain amount of hope.

This website has been going on for almost five years now. Tens of thousands of hours worth of researching, reading, interviewing experts, thinking and composing the almost 800 articles on the site, 200 recommended books, and dozens of experts. We when started, back in very early 2006, there really wasn't anything out there about PTSD and veterans on the Web, for troops coming back from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan and their families. I Googled it plenty to make sure I wasn't intruding on someone else's "space." In fact, Ilona Meagher was starting her work at about the same time, but Google hadn't picked up either of us yet. A few months later, when I found her site, I made a point not to read it, so that we could each keep to our original point of view, and not be accused of overlap.

I even chose the name, "Healing Combat Trauma," in a fit of inspiration -- because it was expressly intended to give people HOPE, who might be lacking it, or beaten down by the sheer overwhelming nature of what they had, that they could still get better. Something to cling to, that might help move them out of a state of despair, discouragement and demoralization into a sense that there was something still worth looking for, not to mention living for. "Without hope, the people perish" -- the Bible says. It's a very true statement. And there's nothing like illness to make people give up hope, because of feeling poorly in body, mind and spirit.

Today, almost five years later, the "landscape" surrounding this topic has changed quite a bit, but it's also heartening that people are beginning to find that we're out there and like what they see. The need is greater than it ever was. At least 18 veterans a day kill themselves because they've frankly given up, or feel too miserable to carry on, with the "best" of what they've been offered from the status quo (which fortunately is also improving, but maybe not fast enough, or in enough flexible directions to satisfy the need.) I made a decision early on that I didn't want to "just" report the news -- "misery everywhere! report at 11" -- because that was too easy to do, and didn't require any original thought. We're not cutting and pasting here; we're reading, analyzing, thinking, and talking to people who know -- and then sharing that information with you. 

And there's a certain amount of resistance. On Facebook, where there's a fan page for this site, linked here, with approximately 2,500 members, people occasionally recoil in horror when they read the title. "Healing" Combat Trauma? Why, they sputter, you can't HEAL combat trauma -- my doctor said so! And I just saw him. Of course, we've covered that topic, ad infinitum, but the basic interpretation is, there's a difference between "healing" and "curing" -- and healing is a nice continuum of improvement from bad to better that anyone can jump right on, at any given time -- especially when they're ready to, and not a moment before. "Healing" isn't something you want to drag unwilling people into; but it's also something that is available for those who want it, at whatever degree they can access it. (Even the VA, at least at the level of the National Center for PTSD, and their clinical training which I got to attend in May, is talking about switching the emphasis from a focus on "symptomology" to "functionality" with PTSD -- a needed improvement.)

I had the "healing versus curing" conversation many times with the subject of "Eyewitness to Combat," whose own story of great improvement is highlighted here, in his own words. After going to one treatment or another that appeared to improve him, he would be excited about thinking that he was now "cured" -- despite 40 years of chronic, severe PTSD, and having tried most of what VA had to offer, including a stint in an inpatient, residential treatment program for PTSD that was cutting edge at the time. I tried to explain to him, patiently and not always successfully, that healing wasn't a toggle switch between "ill" and "well," but a path from one to the other, which he was now on, and which he'd continue to be on, through the various things that we'd try and the progress that he'd make. It's also something that doesn't always need a practitioner to facilitate. Practitioners are important, but there are also things that a person can do for him or herself, to improve their overall health and well-being. And sometimes it's important to wedge people's minds open just a little tiny bit...in order that they can encounter something new, that might change their world view, which might (ultimately) help change their lives. Worth it.

Which brings us to the quote of the hour. It's an interesting one, because Rob Brezsny hones in on how something people aren't used to -- the idea that you can "heal" PTSD, for instance -- ruffles some feathers, and shakes some people up. But if they already knew it, what would be the point of hearing it again? Sometimes we have to step away from our preconceived ideas about what "can" and "can't" happen to enter the realm of the possible. In sickness, which is so laden with discouragement and guilt -- as well as hype and manipulation, sometimes -- that's no different from any other area. So let's see what Brezsny has to say about what qualifies as "information" on a topic:

"Let's define information as data and ideas that are new to you. If it's something you already know, then it's trivia or propoganda or dogma, not information. In fact, let's be tempted to use the terms "information" and "novelty" interchangeably. If you're not surprised, if your curiousity isn't piqued, then the message streaming your way may not qualify as information." -- Rob Brezsny.

Quotable Quotes -- José Narosky on All Soldiers Are Wounded

 "In war, there are no unwounded soldiers." -- José Narosky

A Corrective to Believing PTSD is Responsible for Everything

I found this line last night on a blog. It's jagged and funny because, really, people do blame too much on PTSD, when it's sometimes not PTSD's fault at all.  Here's one veteran's barbed but humorous take on it:

"As to PTSD, I know some veterans have been emotionally devastated by their service experience. In no way do I not respect their experiences. The majority are, I believe, like me. I was an asshole when I went into the Army. The Army didn’t cause that. When I got out I was the same, only with some stress added."--- Anonymous

The Combat Veteran's Lament: "My Mind is Not a Faucet That I Can Turn On and Off at Will..."

"People tell me to forget the war, telling me it is over. Their advice is sound and well-intentioned but impossible to follow. Simply because my mind is not a faucet that I can turn on and off and at will. I am working on it." -- Eddie H. Livingston, World War II combat veteran, former POW.

Quotable Quotes -- Albert Schweitzer, M.D. on the Doctor Within Every Patient

"Within every patient there resides a doctor, and we as physicians are at our best when we we put our patients in touch with the doctor inside themselves." Albert Schweitzer, M.D. -- Swiss physician, theologian and humanitarian; winner of the 1952 Nobel Peace Prize. (1875-1965.) 

Quotable Quotes -- Andrew Weil on the Secret Wisdom of the Body, a Key Participant in Health and Healing

"It is a misnomer to call medicine 'the healing art.' The healing art is the secret wisdom of the body. Medicine can do no more than facilitate it. That is all healers can do, too." -- Andrew Weil, M.D., "Health and Healing."
  

Belleruth Naparstek to Mental Health Colleagues: "Please Stop Saying PTSD is Incurable."

Note to mental health colleagues: "You can recover from posttraumatic stress. Certainly, you can significantly reduce - not just manage - its symptoms. But - and here's the thing - not with traditional treatment. The problem is, a lot of my colleagues don't know this yet. So they go about it in traditional ways and pronounce the condition incurable, based on the results they get." -- Belleruth Naparstek, from her article "Note to Colleagues: Please Stop Saying Post-Traumatic Stress is Incurable," just published in The Huffington Post on May 1, 2010, and linked here. The whole article is excellent; please give it a read and a think as well...

Editor's note: We've written about Naparstek before on this site, here. Her guided imagery tapes, CDs and DVDs, including "Health Journeys: A Guided Meditation for Healing Trauma (PTSD)," and her book, "Invisible Heroes : Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal," are loved by many.

Vietnam, Iraq and Afghanistan -- Suffering and Love

It's interesting to live a life that's been bracketed on either side by wars in Vietnam and now Iraq and Afghanistan. It certainly created an awareness of hardship and suffering, and the need and desire to offset that. And it brings to mind a favorite quote: "Suffering accompanies life, but love is affirmation." -- Everyday Tao, by Deng-Ming Tao.

Quotable Quotes -- True Freedom

"True freedom is the ability to pause between the stimulus and the response, and in that pause to choose."